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Judging another ... - 23/07/2008 19:21
"When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself."
(Wayne Dyer, American self-help advocate, author and lecturer)
Try this little experiment. Spend a few minutes thinking about someone or something you dislike intensely you know, that person or cir***stance that makes your entire body feel tense and then look in a mirror. Notice the dullness in your eyes, the way the corners of your mouth turn downward, the slight droop of your shoulders. Now let all thoughts of this person or situation go and think instead of someone or something you truly appreciate and enjoy you know, the person or cir***stance that fills your heart with an overwhelming sense of delight. Just embrace that person or situation in your mind for a moment and then look in the mirror again. Notice how the sparkle has returned to your eyes, the way your lips now curve to suggest a smile, and the upward, confident tilt of your chin.
The first reflection in the mirror is the reflection of judgment, the way you look when you focus on the wrongs you perceive around you. The second reflection is the way you look when you allow love to flow.
These are the ways you define yourself to the world, so the question to ask is this:
Do you want to be defined by the flaws you see? Or the love you give?
(Kate Novak)
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